I love cats, but not everyone does: 8 Reasons to Hate Cats, 8 More Reasons to Hate Cats, Yet Another 8 Reasons to Hate Cats and finally Hey! There Are 8 More Reasons to Hate Cats. (Look At This…)
Since there are so many cat lovers around here, I thought I’d share this video of an adorable kitten who simply cannot stay awake…
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FUCK CATS: “If things aren’t the way you like, like them the way they are.”///////used to be ok with cats: Yes I’m sorry for using bad words, and acting tough, sometimes deep disappointment affects me. Such as your disappointment, when the cat shows you no respect. And this blog, dedicated to this lack of respect from cats…And the anger cats generate by their thankless controlling behavior. However, you did come across like a cruel person…”Judge a man only by his own deeds and words; the opinions of others can be false.” So, I may be wrong…I hope…”The test of good manners is to be patient with bad ones.” “When a man is unable to understand a thing, he ridicules it.” “The chief superiority of man over animals lies in his power of speech; but if we speak folly, we are no better than animals.” “Expunge from yourself anything which interferes with your feeling of a special connection between yourself and all living creatures. “Perhaps the most hateful of all qualities is cruelty” and most importantly, free your mind and your ass will follow
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actually i was also frustrated before i beat the cat because i have to keep closing the door in my room and it is such a burden since i dont normally close it till she came along. I am trying to reconnect to cat. The reason that i start posting here is because i was mad and at the same time guilty and in need of advice. Maybe i was wrong, maybe cats can forgive. anyone can advice me on this one?
I got a simple but effective solution to my problem. I drill a screw into the wall of my room. Connect rubber bands to make a long one. attach one of its end to my door hanger and the other end to the screw i made. Now everytime i open the door and leave, it automatically close on its own. This should save me some trouble and frustrations.
You’re going to love these two cartoons 🙂
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Enjoy!
I too have felt a little guilty for being mean to my cat. So, recently I made an effort to be nice, showing good manners, patience, leaving the cat door open again, and performing my unique brand of cat cranial massage… From Tiddles time in exile, when his manners toward me became respectful, he has now reverted to his previous obnoxious self, responding to my greetings with a tail flick and look away, running through the cat door at moments of attention from me to him, harrassing for food when I’m busy, bad vibes and dirty looks. His efforts to keep me down, supplant himself as boss, have once again been his undoing. He is now in exile once more and I imagine will become nice again as winter rain and storms are here, and his time with me and the house will be limited to 10 minutes over 1 meal then out. Showing love and kindness is wasted on this beast, who rewards ones goodwill with an unkind response. Begone, symbol of satan, guard the grain and fuck off. Sadly, this final experience has polarized me once again. But I challenge someone who loves cats to shine some light… maybe I’m just being too sensitive and similar to overconnecting on a first date, just need to get a life in the real world instead of the ivory tower I have retreated to. I often get bullied… then end relationships. Oscar Wilde said ‘no good deed goes unpunished’. Maybe I should ‘treat them mean and keep them keen’. Seemed to work with the cat called Tiddles. Nicolle: who is Sam Hill?
Aucklander: Sam Hill is no one in particular! It’s just a nice way of saying “hell.” For example, “What in Sam Hill are you doing here?”, instead of “What the hell are you doing here?”
Kind of like, Gary doesn’t know jack shit. Jack shit means “nothing.” He is not a person, just a state of mind, …
I am sure, oh philisophical one, that you know what I mean!
Did you read, “The Portrait of Dorian Gray?”
P.S. My name is spelled NicHolle! 😉
Sorry NicHolle, but with 32 variant names for ‘victorious people’, I’m sure you get misspelled lot! When I say my name ‘Frank’, its amazing how many people hear Craig or Grant. Grace and Lance people and I get along well too, similar names must create a similar edge to ones life. Instead of saying ‘good god’ some say ‘gorden bennett’, I have no idea who he is either. Good to see you back Nicholle. Have not read Wilde, just viewed wiki re Dorian Gray. Why do you ask? Is there something for me, now, in one of my darker moments? Are you suggesting I move from the tower to the bar, and seek the pleasure of the flesh? Beastiality with Tiddles? Hedonistic oblivion is a good replacement for the retreat of the ivory tower, but I used to practice it much and decided to save the body as I’m now 43 years old and didnt want to end up haggard like many of the older Grey Lynn muso’s, artists, junkies and such. I broke with 20 year younger hedonistic heroin girl last year and the ugliness of her inner landscape, her family dynamics, suicide, anxiety, dishonesty, though interesting and voyeuristic to me at first, ended with me swearing off that kind of life, and avoiding it practisioners like the proverbial plague. So I got a cat. Fuck. Two actually, one brow beaten by big brother who hides in the garden and big brother who now works on my brow. Your not suggesting I may prefer dirt track racing to the pleasures of the magic sandwich?
Frank: Yes, you are right, my name is *often* misspellled, regardless of the educational level or ethnic background of the person who is writing it, or of how slowly and carefully I spell it for them. It used to be spelled “Nicole” but I changed it legally when I was 15, because I love my name but hated the trite, jaded “common” spelling. Cool of you to know its meaning; most people don’t! Don’t tell me you found it on Wiki!!!
My husband’s name is Craig, but I usually call him Fart.
No, I am certainly not suggesting you trade your Ivory Tower for a hedonistic life! I, too, swore off a similar lifestyle, but at a much younger age…My parents were the town smack freaks (Northeastern US slang for “junkies”), and I spent most nights and weekends of the first 18 years of my life in taverns and crackhouses, not by choice. When I was 14 and one of my mother’s “friends” try to kill me while he was under the influence of some mind-altering substance, I wound up with my grandparents (who had their own issues), and a year later I swore to myself that when I was able to make my own life it would be the complete opposite of the one I had been born into.
No particular reason I asked about “Dorian Gray.” Just when you mentioned Oscar Wilde and that is probably his most well known work. No, I am not suggesting you explore bestiality with Tiddles! Though I have on more than one occassion told my Fart to “fuck the cat.” And he has accused me of being in love with my guinea pigs. The truth is I am, but not in a bestial way 😉 But hey, to each their own, I always say.
“The Magic Sandwich?” Now that is one I *haven’t* heard before. Does it mean what I think it means? If it does, I’ll have to tell Fart. I think he’ll appreciate it…lol
hey a lil help here these cat wont freaking snap the hell out. I fed her let her out and pet her although after cornering her. This is just stupid. Chances are ill get violent to her if she dont snap out of it because honestly this is frustrating me. Reminds me of a person who would say “No i wont forgive you” even if it was his fault in the first place.
Heard it on the radio from a New York city correspondent. We are not that avante garde here in nz. Good. I’m happy with my heterosexuality. Surrounded by gays and lesbos does make one think heterosexuality to not be the norm.
Used to be okay with cats: dont be too kind, dont be mean, ignore it, let the cat get a little hungry, wait for the cat to realize that good behavior is rewarded with food, bad behavior means put outside and hungry. Tiddles is amazing today… dont be too nice! The little fuckers will walk all over you!
Word.
Cats are manipulative, self-centered cocksuckers. Their only purpose in life is to serve themselves, so if being nice to you in order to get food serves their purpose of fulfilling their hunger, then that is what you are going to have to do in order to keep them humble…. Manipulate them right back. That is the only thing they understand, the mindless, robotic pieces of shit.
Yes, its true. Selfcentered, cruel, nonsocial, probably similar in mind to a serial killer. Tiddles is in asshole mode again, his natural state…How do you manipulate them back Nicholle? Like serviving the food but placing it so they cant reach it, driving them wild? Set up the cat door so it closes on their head? Make a glove with pins in it, so when you pat them they get pricked…What about guinea pigs? (love that sound they make) Do you have more than one? Are yours reproducing? Doesnt the cat attack them? Do they roam around at all? Do they shit in the wrong places when let out? I saw a show on Peru, all the households had them… they ate them! Some have cool eighties hairdo’s. The old girlfriend (fast eddies mum) had one and a rabbit in the same cage, but they didnt get on.
Aucklander: I like your ideas on how to manipulate cats…but I would never get away with it with my husband..lol. But he just put a surgical hairnet over the cats head and now she is writhing around the living room trying to get it off. But he just took mercy on her and took it off after she crashed into the couch.
I have two female guinea pigs, Aquinnah & Ryvvir, living in the same cage. No, the cat does not bother much with them. She is more curious about them than anything, and they about her. I don’t believe in breeding them. Or rather, should I say, I have no desire to breed them. Guinea pigs are wonderful animals and I would be tickled pink at the prospect of adding more to the Universe, but the fact is that there are too many without homes out there, many of whom are euthanized days after arriving in shelters or live out unfulfilled lives waiting in well-meaning guinea pig rescues for a forver home that never comes to fruition. I only keep same-sex pairs, or neutered-male/female pairs, and I only adopt from shelters or rescues. Yes, I realize that all guinea pigs were bred somewhere, but I would rather be part of the solution (however small) than part of the problem, which is overpopuluation, mistreatment and abandonment due to irresponsible breeding and misinformed owners. To answer your questions, they usually hang out on the couch with me when they are out, sometimes I let them roam around but they tend to find tight spaces and wedge themselves there, so not as much. They know where their bathroom is (in designated corners of their enclosure), and usually don’t relieve themselves when they are out unless I keep them out for longer than they can hold it. They usually signal to me when they need to go back and do their business, but sometimes my attention is on other things. I know they eat guinea pigs in Peru and in other countries in South America. My English as a Second Language students and I love busting each others balls about this, as they all come from South America and know I keep guinea pigs as pets. God, they are so much fucking better than cats.
But thank you for asking about them. I love to talk about my baby girls. Used to have big hair, but threw out the hairspray about 16 years ago….
Of courses, as my husband, who is standing behind me at this moment reading over my shoulder, affirmed, because I am of partially Italian ethnic background, I have big hair regardless of if I use hairspray or not 😉
Here is a photo of my girls. Aquinnah is rust and white, and Ryvvir is black and white…
I know this is a site about cats (or hatred thereof) but I just couldn’t resist.
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Cute as! Its sad about abandoned animals. I gave up rescueing, fostering, rehoming dogs. I beleive now the keeping of pets to be an obsolete leftover of our past. Like having green lawn to show you can afford to not till the land you own. All cats and dogs had a purpose… Anyways, dont want to rain on your parade. I also have little purpose, so the little critters may as well join us on the way
Aucklander: Don’t be so hard on yourself. I believe we are *all* here for a reason, even though it may not be clear to us (or others) at a given time. We all have some higher purpose for existing. Even my parents: they were put on this earth to make me 😉 I am not religious or anything, but my life experiences have led me to discover–and invent–many interesting philosophies.
And no, you didn’t “rain on my parade.” I have a healthy self-esteem (most of the time, anyway). To each his or her own opinion! Most people don’t understand my love for guinea pigs, and scratch their heads at the prospect of my advocating so strongly for them. But most people’s heads are of little concern to me. I am doing what I feel is the right thing, and it is a good feeling to make a difference–however small–to such wonderfully intelligent and emotionally complex creatures. They do appreciate it and they do reciprocate quite warmly. Even though they don’t live for as many years as I would like, the time I get to share my life with them is exponentially worth it.
So, bottom line, your beliefs are fine with me. Most of us walk to our own tune; my tune just happens to be “wheek, wheek, wheek.”
I wonder when a cat lover will reappear. Would be quite good to have a: yes they are, no their not, debate. I bought a live trap recently. I’ve been planning to catch Peeps, Tiddles brow beaten brother. Not sure if he wants to be part of the family…reintroduced in to the fold…not sure if I want him around! His eyes have gone wierd since hes gone wild. If I set the trap will probably catch some strays too… what to do with them. The girls next door decided against Tiddles, thought he was too wierd, they are getting a kitten instead. He has really responded to the cold shoulder treatment. He is much nicer overall. Should do the same with my girlfriend. Oops, not very politically correct am I? Kiwi (nz) woman/women are quite well up here on the world stage. First to get the vote globally?. Doing better than boys at school, much better representated in the media (all men are potential abusers and/or rapists), less prone to abusing drugs/food and overall emotionally, mentally and physically fitter. Kiwi guys have a football and beer thing going, but the word redneck, is not in our vocabluary. See, I cant even spell.
Nicholle & Aucklander: Since when do you know stuff about Peru? Aucklander, tell me what show it is that you’ve seen (in Peru) P.S. Cats are cunts.
I visited family in Peru, and they eat conejo (rabbit). Its better to have guinea pigs and dogs as pets instead of cat pissants.
Peru’s a famous country (if you know what Machu Picchu is
) Maybe that’s why??????? Or just simple research? Just to stay on topic: I hate cats, they treat me like a pinche jugete (damn toy). If only I was allergic to them.
Brian: I began learning about Peru about 8 years ago, my sophomore year in College. A close friend of mine, who helped me through a difficult time, was from Peru, and I became essentially part of her family. Since then I became interested in learning more about it and the groups that make it up – the Quechua, the Maya, Macchu Picchu. alpacas. Also, about 1/4 of my ESL students are from Peru. I am no expert, but know more about it than most “non-Peruvians.”
Unfortunately, my friend and I drifted apart when she began having trouble with her family and moved far away. I have attempted to contact her but she has not reciprocated. Some people just choose to move on, I guess.
Just to stay on topic: yes, cats are cunts. I hate that word but it’s true. My husband thinks they are cute, but yo pienso mi gatita es una cosa fea (I think my cat is an ugly thing.) LOL
Twas a travel show “No Reservations”, a New York chef drinking his way round the world. Saw some Guinea Pigs on TV last night, havn’t watched them in ages. I used to have mice when I was a child, and have forgotten how endearing and earnest these creatures appear. Very very social, sort of opposite to snooty cats. Tiddles is a dickhead again. Found this site on guinea pig noises http://jackiesguineapiggies.com/guineapigsounds.html
Aucklander: Cool of you to post that link. I wasn’t able to open any of the wave files for some reason, but I know what they sound like 😉 Yes, guinea pigs are much better pets than cats, very social and sincere. What you see is what you get with them. But I do agree that the discussion would be much more intriguing if a few more cat lovers were to join the fray to tell us how benighted, unfulfilled and empty-headed we all are…lol
Brian: Funny story about my friend from Peru (Mitsy) since we are on the subject. About 8 years ago, I arrived at her home to take her out for her birthday. Her grandparents were up on a visit from Peru. Well, as soon as I opened her front door, there the folks were, and up until this moment I had never met them, in their multicolored alpaca garb. And before I can introduce myself they start chattering in Quechua and hijack me to the kitchen, and demand something from me using sounds I have never knew existed. Mitsy quickly explained to me that she had told them about my pet guinea pigs, sure that they would understand that I don’t raise them for food. They expected that I was going to bring them as a gift to Mitsy and them so that they could cook them for her birthday. I was part horrified, part amused, but ultimately I wound up on the floor trying my damdest to control my laughter. I didn’t know how else to react, and it seems that they found humor in it too, because they laughed also. However I did manage to explain to them, in Spanish, that my guinea pigs were pets, not dinner.
Figured it was worth sharing, as most people get a kick out of it, whether they are into guinea pigs or not.
I don’t know shit about Quechua, Nicholle. I’m sorry that I used the word “cunt” it is especially bad to say it in front of women. Well its still true though that cats are pissants!
Nicholle: I swear, los gringos aqui no puede hablar nada, ni de espanol! todos son de europa, o otro lugar, y son racistas tambien contra los negros y los hispanos! Pinche Don Imus. ( The Americans here cannot speak spanish. They’re either from europe or another place. They’re racist also! I mean, who would judge people by the color or skin, or the language they speak? God, theyre fucking stupid! Goddamn Don Imus.
Aucklander: No offense taken, but your apology is accepted and appreciated nonetheless.
Brian: In what place do you live where there is so much racism againsnt Peruvians?
There is racism everywhere; I am beginning to believe that it is an unfortunate part of human nature, to fear what is not familiar. But where I live, those of South American ancestry are quite accepted and assimilated into the community.
No, what Don Imus said was not very nice, but I would consider him and those like him more a symptom of the racist issue rather than a catalyst.
But also remember, Brian, what we have been trying to tell the cat-loving freaks on this board… We are all free to disregard that with which we do not agree, and subsequently walk away from it. Sometimes, that is the most powerful statement we can make 😉
How do search engines work? If we put stuff like cat love, cats are the best, love my cat, beautiful cats, cats rock, stuff like that, will that bring them here? Nicholle: your a strong woman, this is on tv here tonighthttp://www.tv3.co.nz/Programmes/InsideNewZealand/tabid/86/Default.aspx?listingID=715129
Seems like the Virginia killer thought he was a victim of bullying. I suppose we all are. I mean even bullies get bullied, right? That tape was kinda like ‘you made me do it’. I was at a mens meeting last night and the facilitator was kinda nasty. Hes a bully. But isnt a bully kinda like a vampire, reduces his victims and puffs himself up. Sad, so sad. I recently experienced friends ganging up, the whole pack dog intinct, its not nice. And the wierd thing is, its usually niceness that they gang up against. Caesars ugly mob. The killer made out he was a lamb amongst the wolves, but hell, did that change! Sorry, I know this is off the subject, but seeing as the cat hate support group has momentarily stalled, thought this was on peoples minds. Especially teachers of foreign students. I am sorry Nicholle, must be awfully different at school
Aucklander: My English Comp students have been distant and preoccupied. Most people are at thate age, but they have been more so than usual. I think they are probably dwellign on what happened at Virginia Tech. It really did shock the world. The kid had some serious issues. I’m not making excuses for him. He needed to be away somewhere he could have gotten the help he needed.
Lots of bullies out there. Very perceptive, though, about the strong woman observation. I am told that quite often. Actually it gets on a lot of people’s nerves–not necessarily because I am strong, but because have a tendency to be unintentionally “in your face” about things. I had an interview earlier this week during which the recruiter told me straight out that he was impressed with my portfolio, but that he had reservations about hiring me because he fears I might “steamroll” over the existing faculty with my personality. I hear stuff like that a lot.
But on the subject of bullying, I find that I tend eliminate them quickly from my small but tight circle, as most people perceive fairly quickly that I don’t take shit and bullies don’t like that, so be default they don’t like me. In most cases in which I encounter bullies, as I have quite often in the work place, they either keep out of my way (by reasoning to their subjects that I smell or have ebola or something) or firing me if it is within their authority. I challenge people’s fragile balance, and because of that I am often poorly tolerated. But I am lucky to have the people I have, as I would rather have one person who I could be myself around always than 100 people who I constantly have to put on an act for. I have a feeling you hear where I am coming from.
Cat lovers, where are you?
Word! I like boat rockin whistle blowers. yay for you! stay strong, banging heads can be hard work. I’m about to contest the authority of the facilitator, he’s a scorpio, 6′ 5″. I’m short and foreign looking. I feel nervous. Hes got he rest jumping to his tune. Thanks for your descriptions Nicholle, I have taken some strength.
That Virginia Tech massacre did shock the world, the news said that that he had emotional problems. Nicholle:What you just said was really, really deep. (to me)
CAT LOVE PUSSY LOVE LOVE MY CAT BEAUTIFUL CATS ADORABLE CAT PHOTOS CAT VIDEOS CAT ASSHOLES CAT ARSEHOLES HATE CATS KILL CATS CATS MUST DIE CAT LOVERS CRAZY CAT HATERS CRAZY A WORLD WITH NO CATS CATS ON THE MOON TROUBLED CAT DISTURBED CAT CAT MENTAL PROBLEMS CATS JUST WANT TO HAVE FUN
I think the role of the bully is played down by the mainstream. Its as if the cognitive recognition of the bullys place in society would cause ripples of dissent and revolt amongst the masses or something, santa claus is so much nicer! I see many groups of friends and acquaintences ruled by these self inposed dictators, or to put it clinically, those who exhibit dominant traits. I believe many people want to be part of a group so will take shit, and many dont want to think for themselves. So, those who go with the flow, inadvertently become enablers to power psychos. It is really deep Brian..really..Bullies from my observations generally have large hands, strong bodies and powerful spirits. Don’t choose the dark side Luke. Tiddles is a bully cat. These things are sent to try us. If we live with this we will accept that. As below so above. The microcosm is the macrocosm. Imagine all the gut feelings everyone has being ignoring for the sake of getting on and making a buck or getting laid. I’m like you too Nicholle. Fuck that shit
I wanna know why so many “greeny, animal lovers” own cats???!!! Cats kill other lovely creatures….not just kill, but TORTURE and TORMENT. They’ve wiped out native species. They eat meat!!! (and yes, I know you’re gonna say, “Oh but it’s just snouts, sphincters and entrails”…..but pet food companies are under a lot of pressure to include “real meat” in their products)……so what about the lovely cows and lambs that cat owners support the slaughter of? Yes they’d die to feed humans, but buying cat food is like buying leather….YOU SUPPORT DEATH!
Same goes for dog-owners….but at least dogs aren’t horrid killing machines.
I HATE CATS AND CAT OWNERS!!! (especially the ones who claim to “love animals”)
Brian: Thanks for saying I’m *deep* LOL. That’s pretty cool.
Aucklander: Yes, I agree that “these things are sent to try us,” for how would we grow stronger if we never had any means by which to test our strength. I can honestly say that I would not be as much of a hard ass as I am today were it not for my background. I thank my parents (and every other ignorant pod-head) who insisted I’d amount to nothing or otherwise made me feel inferior for their insufferable cruelty. They created their own doom, because I am smarter, stronger and meaner than all of them now, and they know it. When I walk through my old neighborhood today (my grandparents still live there) all the people who looked down their nose at me 25 years ago come crawling out of the woodwork and try to suck my ass, like they want to be my new best friend. And would you like to know what the best part is? Showing them what a wonderful person they missed out on by refusing to know me, then walking away and leaving them standing there alone with their newly outstreched hand reaching into nothing….
Zaza: I definitely hear your argument about cats, but I am a strong believer in the circle of life, too, which includes species from bacteria to fungi to flora to fauna and all those that eat everything in that range as well. It all has it’s place somewhere, and to eliminate any part of it would have disastrous consequences for all life. *Humans* are part of that circle, too, but I admit that it’s a shaky fence to walk when you love animals and still believe this. I dislike cats, but not because they eat meat. I dislike cats because for the most part they are annoying, self-serving and unempathetic.
Nicholle: A question, why have people in your neighbourhood changed their attitude towards you? I’m struggling a bit with fitting in, at the moment. And need to find the tools/skills/weapons, to win the wars I dream of fighting. I’m an overgiver like my mother, who died bitter and resentful towards many who did not reciprocate her ways, especially some white people from her church who kept her at a distance. Her best relationships where with immigrants like herself. She is classed as ‘eurasian’, Armenian to be exact. I have sensed a generousity of spirit too, in you Nicholle, and hear your words of hurt, and see the hard ass too. Theres kind of a parallel for me too here, so I’m pursuing this because I feel I may learn something important, which i dont think my mom did, apart from learning to type, and spell. I know I too must turn my back on many I have known, or become more like their culture. It simply is not working so I must leave, or become like their culture. I read recently about rogue males http://www.alternativeculture.com/lit/guests/rogue.htm or this may open better http://www.alternativeculture.com/lit/guests/rogue.htm I believe I’m like this phenomena, mainly for challenging the alpha types but getting wasted in the process. So, less mythopoetically speaking, the facilitator is trying to be all buddy buddy after being a domineering, intollerant, egomaniacal pig. Boat rocking whistle blowers normally get wasted, dont they? Maybe I shoulnt have said to him that when you break the word ‘therapist’ into two words, you get ‘the rapist’. Like the mafia says, “dont mess with the family”. Tired of getting whacked, resting in my peaceful tower….ZAZA: Two dogs killed an elderly woman here too days ago and another bit another old lady on the face yesterday. Some hari krishnas I know and hindus (vegetarians) can be real horrible people at times. I dont like factory farming of meat or eggs at all, and dont buy these products. In new zealand, theres all these regulations for cats and dogs welfare, and yet battery chickens and stall pigs have much less kindness shown towards them. Have you ever heard of ‘the hitch hikers guide to the galaxy’. Human growth was encouraged because an intergalactic burger chain responsible for managing farm earth, was waiting for the fattening.
Human fattening, that is. Could be an alogorical story. Those fuck faced cats are getting the love and kindness that could be showered on all those useless human pieces of shit out there!
Aucklander: The “rogue” description hits home with me, as that has been the essence my life up until Craig and I met seven years ago and I managed to eck out some semblance of a notch for myself among his–albeit fragile–family tree. So it really came as no surprise to me when I found out two years after we were married that we are actually distant cousins on the Scottish side. A rogue existence is a harsh, lonely one–one which I very much resented, even when I knew of no other way. I have Craig to thank for showing me another life. He has really helped to ground me and I don’t imagine I will ever be able to fully repay him for that. Even still, though, I have as of yet not been able to completely shake the feeling deep at my core that I am still and will always be a rogue–rootless and aimless. Because of that, I sometimes hurt the people who have come to care about me. And that is a horrible feeling.
My best advice to you, Aucklander, is to take back the power you have given people by striving so fiercely for their acceptance. You realize that you have given them power over you, right? Think of what it is these people have that you want? It may be nothing tangible, but it is most definitely something, even something simple. And ask yourself if you really need it. Are you willing to reach for it at the expense of what you already have that is dear to you? If you have to sacrifice what makes you you in order to attain it, then I would imagine that whatever you want from these people is not worth what you have to give in return. And I would imagine that if you believe this, you will find the strength to seek comfort and acceptance elsewhere, among people who are worthy of your gifts. There are people out there who have as much to offer you as you have to offer them, and who most likely will be willing to love you for you, be them friends, lovers or mentors. This is my perspective on it.
I did nothing to “change people’s attitudes toward me” but work to make a better life for myself. I did not strive to impress the people who spurned me, but I found amusement in the fact that I shocked–and I am sure in some cases disappointed–the people who prophesized that I would die in a gutter at 15 by completely proving them wrong. I think they realize, now that I am an educated, sophisticated adult like them–and no longer the the stray waif that they had so ruthlessly kicked when down decades ago–and now have the potential to influence the actions of others, including themselves, and they fear me because of that. But their penitence comes 20 years too late. I pined for their acceptance and love 20 years ago, and they withheld it from me with impunity. Now that I no longer need them, they condescend to extend their hands of “friendship” to me? They don’t deserve it, and I realize now that they never did. I have since learned what friendship is, and that love is unconditional, and therefore should not require one to sacrifice his or her existential self in order to attain it. I predict–on the basis of my life experience and my lowly philosophy–that when you discover this, you will find yourself, somehow, among the right people, and probably when you least expect it.
On a totally different subject…Total surprise about the Armenian issue. In the U.S., Armenians are considered just another strain of Caucasian (European). Those of Italian ancestry–which is half of my roots–are considered Latino or in some cases their own “race” by 85% of the country. Only the Northeastern portion of the country considers us “white.” Weird, huh! My ethnic heritage is part of me, but does not define me, and I think that too makes a big difference in my outlook.
Hope this helps!
Gee wizz yeah! powerful stuff! I’m going to have to mull that over awhile…. Digestion is a little slow, and you just served up a big bite of nourishment, thank you Nicholle.
Well, you are very welcome, Aucklander. I try my best, but sometimes I find myself rambling and wonder if even *I* know what I am talking about…lol…
Well, that is *not* really true! My words are always carefully chosen and from the core. Some people call it “deep.” Some people find it eerie and unnatural.
But I always love any opportunity to help people see things from differnent perspectives. The tendency has always been part of my nature, even though I have absolutely no formal training and am certainly not a counselor 😉 I get the Relentlessly Philisophical Gene from my mother’s family (though certainly not from my mother herself)!
‘Given them power over me’ is true in that I believed that I should/could make myself vulnerable to my friends, as thats what a relationship is about, trust and openness. However, thats probably where I have gone wrong. As I have 3 x 7’s in my core numbers (numerology), I probably have issues around trust. Either too much, or closed off. With say an aquaintance or man on the street type person, I am more resilient and “okay”, than most people, and less inclined to judge them, least I be judged. I guess I’m hard wired astrologically to be more open than most. Mythopoetically I probably need a sheild of some kind, an attitude change that if this is how it is out there, I must be more aware of protection than most to whom it may come more naturally. Culture has a large part to play here for me. In nz, we are far less diverse than east coast usa. I am sad to admit that many of my ‘friends’, have no, and i mean NO friendships outside their own race type. Frightenly, 2 aussies in my old surfing friends, have the names Aussie Pete and Aussie Keith. As if the difference of being an australian rather than nz’er, becomes a reason to place their nationality before their names! Another friend Luciene of dutch parents is on the outside and ridiculed. Even though auckland is the largest polynesian city in the world, none of these ‘friends’ have friendships with polynesians, asians, indians or immigrants. And, its not just one group of friends like this, or our society in general. I guess all cultures keep to their own. I just need to be more realistic and less idealistic and wistful. Need to go now…
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Nichole: Yeah I’m a cirle of life fan too. Of course it’s very natural for carnivorous and omnivorous animals to eat meat. good on them. I have no problem with that at all. But stupid humans keep breeding more and more cats. And the more cats there are in the world, the more cats there are to eat (or kill for fun) other animals. That might one day wreak havoc within that circle.
Aucklander: As for dogs, am not a fan of those either. Wish noone ever owned pets. Strain on our resources to breed animals we dont need!!!!!!!!
Wish people would let nature occur naturally…. Stop breeding extra animals for companionship. Get a life. Or go be out in nature or something. I HATE ALL PETS
Aucklander: Of course we give our loved ones power over us by loving and trusting them!! I wasn’t saying we shouldn’t, but I what I was saying was that we should not spend as much time striving to befriend people who judge us or try to change us to make us more “palatable” to them or to make it such that they can be “proud to be seen” with us. Sometimes we can change for the best, and that change really is the best thing for us, but often, people resent us or just don’t like us for our personalities or our convictions or just the perpsectives that we have derived from our experiences. THOSE are the people who we need to take the power away from, not the people who already love us for who we are. I didn’t realize that NZ was so full of people who are so xenophobic and ethnocentric, at least not to that extent. My maternal grandfather spent time there during WW II, had a girl and a pet Aussie Shepherd there, loved it so much that he went back to visit 50 years later. He is Tuscan (Italian), and also noticed that he was looked down upon because of it, but had no problem finding other people who shared his heritage and spent most of his time with them. Had a great time nonetheless. So, maybe that is your answer. It sucks that there are so many ignorant people out there, as trust me there are many ignorant people out here too, but it is better to be among people who accept you than among people who don’t. There are many in US who don’t like those of Italian ancestry, many who believe that we are all degenerates (I love “The Sopranos,” but for a good example of what most Americans think Italians are, watch an episode or two). My husband’s family is very multicultural, and we all tease one another, so I even get off-color ethnic remarks from some of them. On the other hand, there are members of my biological family who think I’m substandard because I am not “100% Italian.” I laugh in their face. It’s just sick. But as for the rest of the country, I don’t need their friendship if that is how they feel about me without even knowing me. They have a problem, not me. I just rambled and rambled on and I hope I made some sense! Racism is a global issue, not just an issue in US or NZ. I guess we just all have to find our niche and embrace it, whatever that niche may be.
Zaza: I agree with you on the “breeding of companion animals.” That’s why I don’t buy from breeders or pet stores. All my guinea pigs come from shelters and rescues after being abandoned by previous owners who had bought them from breeders or pet stores. And I don’t breed them. I keep only same-sex female or neutered male-female pairs. So I don’t perpetuate the cycle of irresponsible breeding. I am actually one of the few trying to break it. And since you mentioned it, I actually spend a lot of time in nature myself. Matter of fact, Craig and I are going to hike the Manasquan Reservoir this afternoon 😉
gaza: lol…??? yeah, people buying pets and breeding pets is stupid and crazy, amongst other shitty things people do. Some people make fun of others, and then they themselves go out and do something equally crazy. I guess humans have got a long way to go. Objectively though, humans are probably a lot worse to the enviroment than pets. Maybe you should hate humans too? Nichcolle: Thanks for all your thoughts, I’m chewing the fat on all this at the moment, quite a few paradigm shifts occuring. Its all good, as you once alluded to.
Those fuck faced cats are screwing up this planet! Something should be done! We cant just stand by and let those feline agents of satan take control! We must join together and repulse this negative influence, least they gain more favour and corrupt our precious bodily fluids!
Cats sucks! They think that they own the whole fucking world. I fucking hate cats! Only good cat is a dead one.
Anyone who hates cats or any kind of animal deserves to have their kneecaps shot off, every single hair plucked from their head, ever finger severed then be forced to eat them, nipples shaved of then have salt poured on the wounds, be desemboweld, nails driven into their eyes, set on fire, and left to die! Oh and if anyone is wondering why I came to this site was to tell you that most of you are ignorant pieces of shit and a waste of a human life!
Not everyone is the same, panda 79. So shut the hell up.
Youre right blackeye. The only good cat IS a dead one.